C'mon, people... it's the freakin' INTERNET!!

**see my note below the post

So I ran across this story about a blogger who called a model a skank. We are gonna forget for a minute that the model might be a whatever and the blogger is probably "one to talk." That's semantics.... We aren't gonna debate the morals and maturity of name calling. We aren't even going to talk about the First Amendment Issues swarming this story (Google gave her up after served a court order).

We are gonna talk common sense here for a hot second. Something which seems to be missing from the whole tale.

Let us begin with this premise, the internet is world wide. Now let us build on that, millions and millions of people have internet access at any given moment in time. Our next building block, once you put something out into the web, you just really can't get it back. And finally, most bloggers I know don't blog with the intention of others NOT reading their posts. I think for the most part, the stuff we don't want published probably finds its way into a personal journal. I'm just sayin'.....

So, common sense (which I keep getting reminded isn't all that common) would tell us that once you say some ol' mean ish about someone on the internet, it's out there for good. And millions upon millions of people may or may not read it. And chances are, it's gonna get back to the person about whom the ish was spoken. And they are probably gonna be pissed.

Ok, now First Amendment aside... coz I really don't wanna debate that... let's say you posted that ish anonymously (which ol' girl apparently did). My take on that is.... coward. If you have enough of an opinion to open your yap, stand behind it. Be woman (or man) enough to own that ish and take the consequences.

I'm not saying you can't say that you find another person's actions or character to be offensive. I'm not saying that you can't voice that opinion. Hell, if you can show that the chick you called a skank behaves skankily, that's not even slander or libel... it's truth. But don't hide behind anonymity throwing mud....

Because what goes around comes around. If you don't want your words attributed to you, keep that thought between your ears. Once anonymity is stripped away, who looks like the bigger fool?

And as for the chick who got called the skank.... Well? Is it time for a reality check? Or a check on your behavior? I dunno.... but I promise, if I ever feel the need to tell you about yourself, you won't catch me hiding out behind a pseudonym or any of that mess!

**this is a pic of the blogger in question, and just so that there are no misunderstandings, Yes, dear, I am saying that I find your method of blogging to be cowardly, in my humble opinion. Do not misconstrue this as support for the model, I just don't like the way you handled yourself... not that what I like/dislike has a damn thing to do with it.

gratitude inducing television

so i stayed up waayyy too late last nite watching intervention on A & E and twittering (like that's something new). anyway, this morning, i woke up profoundly grateful that i have a relatively decent family--aside from my fathead brother and one profoundly psycho cousin of my dad's. i also found myself really glad that i don't think twice about makin' an ass of myself in kroger if it means that my son will take me at my word and straighten his narra ass out!

which leads me to this random mental chunklet, why are we as parents so embarassed about having to correct our children? i mean, everybody's kids show their butts from time to time, and it's usually in a place or at a time when they think mama's not gonna correct them. but you see, i was raised by a woman who regularly threatened to "beat the sleeves offa" me. and she meant that shit. and she didn't care where we were when she did it. granted, that was back in the day when all the teachers at my school had an "enforcer" and corporal punishment was not only accepted, but expected. now, i'm not sayin' i'm in favor of beatin' chilluns, but back then, everybody understood that 1.) children would push their limits, and 2.)adults were responsible for reigning them back in. there was no shame in it.

now people are worried about hurting their kids' self esteem and their wee lil feelins--well, honey, ya gotta get the little darlin's used to it, because it will happen sooner or later. and if they haven't learned how to deal with it, they're gonna be in trouble. giving your child an honest appreciation for his strengths and weaknesses is a lot kinder than promoting an unrealistic overinflated over indulged ego. discipline, limits, rules--kids need that shit, desperately. there's no shame in a child's misbehavior. that's how they test their boundaries. parents, there's no shame in enforcing those boundaries. it's ok to loudly tell your child, "you need to act like you have some sense!! you just lost your psp for a week and bought yourself 10 minutes with your nose in a corner!!" for some reason, my six year old HATES the corner. i admit, i have found corners in walmart and put the boy in check in the store.

no shame in it people, check ya kids before you find yourself on A & E cryin' ya eyes out like ol' Tammy.

peace and blessings!!