I'm just sayin'.... some things fellas need to know about chicks....

The following post is of the old copy/paste variety directly from my old MySpace blog.... Yes, that's where I got bitten by the blog bug.... Don't act all self-righteous, I'm sure I'm not the only blogger that's moved out of the MySpace 'hood to better blogging real estate. I should have gone through and edited this more thoroughly. You know, put in capital letters n whatnot... cleaned up the punctuation and the grammar, but it kind of amuses me in its current state. I don't remember exactly what was going on at the moment that I wrote it, but you can be sure Marc was involved in some kind of foolery or another. Anyway.... it's one of the few that I felt were ok enough to pack up and move over to my new eCrib here at Blogspot. Re-reading it, I have come to the conclusion that the whole of the post can probably be summed up with number 5 alone... hmmmmm. Anyhoo, hope you enjoy it! After my last offering, I wanted to post something a with a little lighter mood...

first of all, fellas, i could get my chicks' union card yanked for this. however, i think it might benefit all of us if y'all knew some of this.....so, at the risk of my union membership, here we go....

1.first, almost all of us chicas are suckers for the small sweet things. a call or txt at an unexpected time, a kiss on top of the head. not letting go of a hug until after ya girl lets go.....these kinda things earn you big points, guys. the grand gesture every now and then is fine, it's appreciated, and sometimes called for. but it's the little everyday things that remind us we matter to you.

2.the flip side of this is that we are quick to feel ignored. this can be avoided by keeping us informed. most of us don't want chapter and verse of your day, a general overview is fine. simply hey, gonna be busy. call as soon as i can.....blah blah blah.....knowing it's your schedule, not a burning desire to avoid us is big in our books.

3.ya girl has "needs" too. don't forget that in the scheme of things. you think i'm talkin about sex, don't ya....well, that's good. but i'm talkin about other stuff. we need to feel secure, so when we do the "are we ok" thing, don't roll yer eyes, just say "yea, baby, we're fine" (unless we aren't, then refer to number 4). we need face time. especially when we know your life is a circus. if you're able to cut out an hour for your girl when we know your runnin crazy, well that's at least as good as 24 hours when we know you got nothin to do......see number 1.

4. if there's something wrong, tell us. we sense it anyway, and the waiting for the other shoe to drop sucks the life out of us. we might react badly. no promises, but usually, we will be able to get it together and work it out. now, this really runs the risk of losing me my union card, if you know that she ain't the one for you, that she's just a rest stop on the way to your future wife's world, cut ties. if you're just spending time to kill time, you're wasting her time. the man she's waiting on might pass her by if she's attached to you. and the longer you put it off, the worse it's gonna be when it actually ends.

5. saying "i love you" is wonderful. but remember, guys, don't say it more than you show it. know what i mean?

6. there are certain things we say that will tip you off to impending trouble. these include, but are not limited to "fine, nothing, whatever, i got this, i'm good." in general, sentences of three syllables or less spoken in a low tone with quiet volume.....yeah, yer in for it.......

7.when we cry, don't tell us to stop. just hold us, and let us get it out. we know it makes you uncomfortable, and we are sorry for that, but sometimes, the world just comes down around us and we just gotta......so when that happens, fellas, just hold ya girl and love her.

ok, sisters, if i'm not out of the union and you can think of anything these guys need to know, add it in a comment. if you think i'm way off base, leave that in a comment. guys, feel free to leave comments or questions too. not sayin we'll answer, but ya never kno........